Baby's Independence? (old post)

After looking at some of my friends' blog. I decided to try. Yup, I tried to let her fall asleep by herself. To train her so called sense of confidence and independence early.

So far I know she can fall asleep by herself during daytime, or when she's super tired. But not when i'm around. Them babies are veeery smart. Even though i'm so far away she still wails away.

So anyway, I did try on one fine night. I let her wail for like.. 15mins and I thought this will never end.. So I nursed her to sleep. I browsed around and found some pros and cons. Well everything always has two sides.

But for my own personal opinion, I don't mind nursing her to sleep until she learns how to sleep by herself. No matter what people say, for her own good, to teach them independency, etc etc. Please lah, she's like still 11months plus and you want to teach them about independence?

I personally believe this is the time where they need their parents the most. The time when they learn to trust other people. Even though the western way to do it is teach them independence from young, I disagree.

I'm a working mother. It is hard for me already to leave her alone and not be there with her during her daily and important times. One of my private moments with her is the nursing times. My bonding time, and the times when I actually do my job as a mother.

So after I thought about it, I decided to teach her that independence lesson when she is older. For now, I am enjoying my mothering and nursing times.

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You know what, after approximately 2 years old, more or less, she's fully weaned and fell asleep by herself. I started slowly since she was 1.5yrs old. I did the right thing by waiting until the time is right :)


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Milestone 2 Yrs 1Mos

At this time she picks up things very fast, mostly the ones she got from TV. Not so much on the Bahasa tho. I find that she picks up English better than she picks up Bahasa. Her vocabulary has increased significantly. I didn't count how many words she has but I think she's improving.

Now her favorite show is Dora, OSO, Diego and Team Umizoomi. The rest is just so so. I disabled the youtube App in my Iphone and Ipad. So she will not be exposed to unwanted parody shows.

She can make up simple sentences in English like, " do you see stars?", "Look it's a bike", "Here you go". Bahasa improvemet: bare minimum. She has started saying Ayah Ibu and Teteh clearer now, but so far I have never heard her saying a complete sentence. My maid said that during time of distress aka crying etc she speaks blurred Bahasa but other than that it is so difficult to get it out of her.

She picks up an interest in puzzles nowadays and getting very good at it. She learns the name of animals from ipad mostly, sometime books. She also started to play match game and improving in it. Sometimes when I tell her to do things she pretended that she didn't hear. Now even to tell her to clean up her mess is so difficult. She frowned, pretending to not hear, or run away. A bit tough because I know she understands but because she still can't answer anything makes me think she doesn't.

Her appetite changed too. Now she is more picky and her eating mood changes every day. Sometimes she eats more sometimes less sometimes nothing. Based on what I read this is normal. We can't expect kids to eat regular 3 times daily meal because their intake is different. At first I tried to force her.. but after a while I give up. I just try to provide healthy snacks like fruits, cereals, raisins, yogurts, etc. She was so into candies a while ago but I insisted on limiting it. So now she understood that 1 day maximum 1 candy.

I'm trying to limit TV as well. So far TV is on in the morning and afternoon. Night time we try to not watch tv at all.

Continuing to watch over her progress :)

Day 1 Asha goes Diaperless

Today Asha goes commando! No diapers. I'm a bit sad actually, the maid has to do it and not me. I feel like shoving my responsibility to someone else. I couldn't take leave because everyone in my department has gone on leave, actually 1 resigned 2 took leave.

So anyway, what happened today was:

1. She peed every 20mins, so we're running out of "pop" pants very fast.
2. She's still scared to say "pee". Maybe scared we'll scold her or something. She seems a bit stressed out, but we'll see if she improves in a few days.
3. Currently the last 2 attempt to make her pee in the toilet has succeeded. Usually her signs are touching her genitals then quickly ask her if she wanted to pee.
4. After some attempts she doesn't look as scared when she had to go to the bathroom to clean herself up.

Some tips from friends:

1. Continue to praise her for whatever progress she made on the day. Constantly remind her that she is a big kid and need to pee in the toilet.
2. It will take maybe a week, past a week don't bother, maybe she's not ready.
3. Prepare lots of newspaper to spread on her pee, so when you pick her up to toilet it doesn't drip everywhere.
4. Don't look stress, pretend that it's a normal process that you have to go through.
5. If your cushion is stained, pour hot boiling water on top of it, leave for a while and then put under the sun.
6. If you have cloth diapers, try using the outer wears without insert as a pants, some say helps absorb some so the pee doesn't go all over the place.

I'm gonna go home early today to see her progress... So we'll see how it goes tomorrow....